How to Be Your Very Own Trophy Wife
Yes, you read that correctly. I am going to tackle a subject that might make some people cringe. The idea of being a trophy wife conjures up images that really aren’t seen as flattering or particularly positive. We often visualize a much younger woman married to a distinguished, or not so distinguished, but almost always wealthy male. Typically the wife is very attractive and that alone is enough to land her smack dab in the kingdom of wealth and luxury. Her only real job is keeping up with the trophy wife image. Think Margot Robbie in Wolf of Wall Street.
For quite some time I have debated this topic. My position has always been that we aren’t giving the trophy wives enough credit. Wait…hear me out. I believe that many women who are referred to as trophy wives (behind their backs of course) are actually pretty distinguished themselves and are more ½ of a power couple than a full on trophy. Think more along the lines of Queen B to Jay Z, and while I am rocking the boat just a little I might as well throw in Kim K and Kanye, or if you want to class it up and throw it back a little then one of my all time favorites- Jackie O, might come to mind. Yes, these women look the part, but there is a lot more to them than just outer appearance. Many of them have their own top level careers, businesses, accolades, and would most likely live just as well on their own if they weren’t part of a power couple duo.
So, how do these women do it? How do they manage to look great while keeping all the other balls in the air? To be fair part of it is resource related. They can certainly afford to hire out mundane jobs like house cleaning and grocery shopping, but that doesn’t mean that those of us with fewer resources can’t look amazing and still be goal diggers.
Here is how to be your very own trophy wife in 5 Easy Steps:
Practice Self Care– the reason that trophy wives look so good is because they are well taken care of. That means self care. Make sure you are not treating yourself as an afterthought. Drink enough water, exercise, meditate, ditch the sweatpants and wrinkled tees and dress well. Do what it takes to make sure you feel your best. When you feel good you look good too.
Delegate– you might not be able to hire out, but make sure you aren’t trying to be superwoman. If you have children who are old enough to make their own beds, let them. Create a chore chart and divvy up child appropriate duties. Martyrs aren’t sexy, stop trying to do it all. Make sure you enlist people on your team (not necessarily your payroll) who can help you out in a pinch.
Lean in to Your Career- stop waiting to be rescued, stop waiting for your kids to get older, stop waiting until the universe lines up perfectly. Decide to lean in today. What do you need to do to advance? Perhaps you need to blow the dust off and update your resume, look for opportunities to create additional streams of income, create a business plan or go back to school for an additional certification or degree.
Date on Your Level (or higher)- okay, this is going to be tough to hear but so many women compromise what they want for what they think they can have right now. It is okay to have standards. There is nothing wrong with wanting the same things you have to offer in another person. Stop settling and date like a man. Men typically have a good idea of what they are looking for in a partner. You will constantly hear men joking about “out punting their coverage” only they aren’t joking… contrary to the trophy wife looks only stereotype, most successful men want to date up. Stop with the savior stuff and date up too.
Mother Like a Boss– If you are already a mom (which most of my readers are) keep on mothering like the boss I know you already are. If you don’t have kids yet but feel like this is an area that you would want to add to, then get some practice. Nieces, nephews, and your best friend’s kids will work. Trophy wives look like super moms because they take mothering seriously. Your birthday parties don’t have to be pinterest worthy but you need to know how to get those pesky carrot stains out of toddler tees and baby bibs and where to order the best cupcakes if you aren’t going all Betty Crocker with them.
Now you might find that being a trophy wife isn’t for you and that’s okay too. I still think that all moms could benefit from upping the ante in these five areas just a bit but there’s nothing wrong with living somewhere in the middle if that’s where you feel most comfortable. But if you want more then go for it. Remember you don’t need a partner either to be trophy worthy. You can be your very own trophy wife!
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Until next post,
The Real Chic Life 
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