5 Tips to Help You Make Better Decisions

I tend to be a pretty decisive person. Almost to a fault. Meaning I make decisions pretty quickly. Most of the time these outcomes are good. I am the kind of person who knows what I like. I don’t linger over a menu for 20 minutes or quiz the waiter about what he or she personally recommends or likes to eat. But I am a little intrigued by people who give that much thought to what they are having for lunch.

I like to think that my secret to being decisive is that I trust myself, therefore, I go with my gut or my heart- which actually sounds a little bit better. But I am finding that as I venture more and more outside of my comfort zone I have to make larger decisions that not only affect me but also affect people in my community, so I am giving myself more time to reflect on not just what I like but on what other people who are here for this ride might like as well. So now I find myself seeing decision making as more of a process and less a knee-jerk reaction. I tend to want to follow my heart but also be more thoughtful.

So whether you are like me and want to slow it down and be more reflective or, if you have trouble making decisions altogether, or even if you just want to become a little more efficient at deciphering your choices, this post is for you. I’ll share with you a few simple ways you can fine-tune your decision-making skills to become both decisive and thoughtful.

Decision: Should I join the expensive yoga studio in my neighborhood?

Research-whatever you are trying to do someone has inevitably already done it. Read up on what the pros and the everyday Joe’s have to say about your topic.

Expert-Yoga helps you live longer! But you don’t need a fancy studio. You can do yoga in the comfort of your own home. 

Average Joe-Joining a studio changed my life!

Jot down a pro and con list- This can be as long as you need it to be but simply make two columns and come up with all of the things for and against your decision. This should help you get a little clearer but if not move to step three.

con-That’s a huge chunk of my discretionary income

pro-I feel so much better when I work out regularly

Examine your worst case scenario-many times we don’t move on a decision because we are afraid of what might happen if we make the wrong one. Usually, our worst case scenario is not even as bad as remaining in limbo. Examine what the “failure” might look like. Once we face that we can usually move forward.

I spend the money and don’t go as often as I should. I might as well dig a hole and drop my money into it but… I can cancel anytime. Worst case I’m out one month’s tuition and I learned this isn’t for me. 

If you are still stuck then- Phone a trusted friend. You need a friend or relative that will always tell you the truth. Not a negative Nancy or Always Positive Pam but someone who sees your strengths but understands your shortcomings (we all have shortcomings by the way). Explain your dilemma, share your research, pro’s and cons and worst case scenario and then ask them what their take is.

Friend-remember that time you joined that javelin tossing group and hated it?!

And finally, if you are still thinking about said decision… Go ahead and leap! Remember number 3? What’s the worst thing that could happen? One of my favorite Oprah quotes says that failure is just life trying to move us in another direction…so there really is no such thing!

Oh, hi there spin class…

I’d love to hear what your rule of thumb is for making decisions.


Until Next Post,


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Tonya Parker is a counselor, author and certified life coach who believes in helping women look and feel their best! Ambassador for O, The Oprah Magazine and author of Single Mom Chic

3 thoughts on “5 Tips to Help You Make Better Decisions

  1. I love your tips! I usually just go with my gut! However if it’s a really big decision I think of how it will affect my family. That’s usually my number one thought. I’ve in torn I’ll call my sister Tasha or my best friend Cassy! They usually give me the best advice 😁😁😁😁

    Thanks again for the tips!

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  2. It depends on what I’m making a decision about for how long it takes me. I usually know very easily what I want to eat in a restaurant. However, if I’m making a bigger purchase, such as a new camera, I like to research and read reviews of products from other consumers.


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