The Real Chic Life

I’ve been reading Will Guidara’s book Unreasonable Hospitality (a modern guide to elevating ordinary moments through extraordinary care), for the last couple of days after hearing him say that he’d rather order Chinese Food and truly enjoy his guests (during his With Love, Meghan holiday cameo). Okay, that part—and I also liked that he shared that he also loves cacio e pepe as much as I do. 

While I may have my doubts about the famous owner of Eleven Madison Park ordering take-out for his dinner guests, the sentiment still resonated with me. Presence is powerful. 

Let’s dive in. 

Creating memorable moments isn’t about perfect tablescapes or elaborate menus—it’s about making people feel genuinely cared for. That’s the heart of Unreasonable Hospitality, and it’s something you can bring into your own home with just a few simple shifts. Here are easy, elevated hosting tips that help you create those “I’ll never forget this” moments without the pressure or fuss.

1. Start With a Signature Welcome

Think of the first moment your guests walk in. Offer something small but thoughtful—a chilled seasonal drink, a tiny appetizer, or even a warm towel if it’s cold outside. I love to make mini grazing boards that I personalize for my guests. They’re always a little different and tailored to what I believe they’ll love most. 

Offering something small and thoughtful sets the tone and tells guests, “You’re in good hands.”

2. Personalize at Least One Detail

Will Guiardo’s team is famous for surprising guests with something tailored to their tastes. You don’t have to break out a mini charcuterie board; you can do a simplified version:

• A place card with your friend’s nickname
  
• Their favorite candy at their seat
  
• A playlist that includes songs they love.

People feel seen—and that’s hospitality at its best.

3. Do One Thing Extremely Well

Instead of overwhelming yourself with a dozen dishes, pick one hero element: a standout cocktail, a beautiful dessert, or a roast chicken done to perfection. I’ve been working hard on that last one, and according to my husband George, I’ve nailed it. 

When you focus your energy, your confidence shines through—and so does the food.

4. Make Comfort the Priority

A cozy throw draped over a chair, slippers by the door for cold floors, candles glowing softly, and lighting that flatters everyone—comfort is quiet but powerful.

 People remember how they felt long after they forget the menu.

5. Leave Space for Delight

Unexpected touches elevate the ordinary:

• A handwritten menu
  
• A parting gift (tiny luxe hand soap, a pack of tea, or a homemade cookie)
  
• A “celebration moment” if someone has recently achieved something
  

Delight transforms a gathering into an experience.

6. Embrace the Art of Being Present

Your mood sets the energy. If you’re relaxed and enjoying yourself, guests will follow. Let the dishes wait. Keep conversations flowing. Be truly with your guests.

Presence is the most generous form of hospitality.

7. Close With Warmth

Before guests leave, offer a moment of connection—a final drink, a to-go treat, or simply stepping them to the door.

The ending shapes the memory of the entire night.

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The Chic Hosting Mindset

You don’t need a big budget or hours of prep to create extraordinary experiences. Hospitality is emotional, not ornamental. When you add intentionality, warmth, and small moments of surprise, even the simplest gathering becomes unforgettable.

x Tonya