The Real Chic Life

Whenever I receive a hostess gift I always think about how thoughtful and put together the gift giver is. Tonya is naturally great at this, but this year I’m going to step up my game. Because whether you’re headed to a candlelit dinner party, a laid-back barbecue, or a girlfriend’s wine night, showing up empty-handed just isn’t the vibe. Your presence is a gift of course, but the key to being a thoughtful (and stylish) guest? Bringing a gift that fits the mood and feels a little luxe.

So here’s a guide to the chicest hostess gift for every type of event—even the casual ones:

1. For the Backyard Barbecue:

Gift: A Box of Gourmet Ice Cream Sandwiches or Craft Sodas

Show up with something that feels nostalgic and elevated. Think locally made ice cream sandwiches, artisanal popsicles, or a six-pack of pretty glass-bottled sodas. It’s fun, crowd-pleasing, and guaranteed to disappear before sunset.

2. For the Intimate Dinner Party:

Gift: A Bottle of Wine from a Boutique Winery or Tasting Room

Bring a bottle with a story—not just something off the supermarket shelf. If there is a boutique that sells wines near you, bring a bottle of something local or unique. When I have time to order in advance, I get a bottle from a winery near my alma mater in Charlottesville. It feels like a personal touch.

3. For the Casual Game Night:

Gift: Milk & Cookies (But Make It Fancy)

A fresh-baked box of chocolate chip cookies tied with a ribbon? Irresistible. Level it up by pairing it with milk in a glass bottle—or go full glam with a cookie tin from a local bakery.

4. For the Housewarming Party:

Gift: A Luxe Candle in a Statement Vessel, a Hand Soap and Lotion Duo in a Chic Dispenser, or a Stylish Set of Coasters

A moody, chic candle adds instant ambiance. Choose something in a neutral or sculptural container. Bonus points if the scent makes the host feel like they’re vacationing in Provence. An elevated sink-side moment is also a chic option. Look for designer or niche hand soap sets with gorgeous packaging like Aesop, Grown Alchemist, or Le Labo. Coasters are one of those items people rarely buy for themselves, which also makes them the perfect gift. Look for marble, brass, or hand-painted ceramic designs.

5. For the Holiday Soirée:

Gift: A Set of Linen Cocktail Napkins or a Box of Pastries for the Morning After

Linen napkins in a rich hue add instant flair to the hostess’s bar cart. Monogrammed or printed in a bold pattern? Even better. Or consider gifting a beautifully packaged assortment of pastries—think buttery croissants, fruit-filled danishes, or spiced muffins. You can source these from a local bakery. This thoughtful gesture offers your host a delightful treat to enjoy the next morning, making their post-party routine a bit more indulgent.

6. For the Wine & Cheese Girls’ Night:

Gift: A Chic Cheese Knife Set or a Little Ceramic Dish

Bring something functional and fabulous. A gold cheese knife trio or a hand-thrown ceramic dish is both thoughtful and totally on-brand. Pair it with a wedge of cheese or marcona almonds if you want to be the favorite guest.

7. For the Brunch or Garden Party:

Gift: A Petite Floral Arrangement in a Reusable Vase, A Bottle of Brightland Olive Oil or a Small Jar of Fancy Honey

A small, well-curated bundle of blooms in a simple bud vase or jam jar feels romantic and unfussy. It’s ready to display, no rearranging required—and the vase lives on after the flowers fade. Or choose a bottle of olive oil or fancy honey that looks as good on the counter as it tastes on the plate. Wrap it in linen or a pretty tea towel for extra charm.

8. For the Fancy Dinner Out (At Their Place):

Gift: A Beautiful Coffee Table Book

Bring a gorgeous hardcover your host will love flipping through after the guests leave. Interior design, fashion, food, or travel—the options are endless. For some great home decor book options, check out Tonya’s recent post. Tie it with a velvet ribbon and let it double as decor.

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Match the vibe of your gift to the tone of the event. It doesn’t have to be expensive—it just has to feel intentional. And always include a handwritten note.

What’s your favorite go-to hostess gift? Tell me in the comments—I love discovering new ideas to keep in my toolkit.

Xo,

Courtney