5 Tips to Look and Feel Fabulous Over 40

The other night I met my husband at a local sports bar that was airing a game that wasn’t on television. I am not a  huge football fan but I am a supportive wife so when he reached out during my Target shopping trip (my sport by the way) to ask that I meet him and I agreed. When I got there he had already ordered and had a drink in hand. I placed my order and the young bartender asked for ID. “Hey, you didn’t card me!” my husband chided. He was joking of course, and it’s his standard response. We are 7 years apart, but I think he looks pretty young too. Anyhow, I don’t always get carded but it happens enough to make me wonder why I am still reaching for my ID 24 years later.

I know I am not alone in this and feel like most of my friends look just as young as I do but since I write about beauty over 40 and life advice here it goes.

My 5 Beauty Tips

Come up with a simple beauty routine-A lot of women I know say that they don’t put much effort into their look unless they are going out because it takes too much time. I believe that creating a simple routine helps you always look your best. Don’t save it for date night, look and feel good every day. My routine takes under 5 minutes- 1. Because I have been doing the same thing for years and 2. Because it really is simple- Mascara, powder or concealer and lipstick.  Now I love to play with highlighter and contour sticks but that’s for special occasions. I don’t believe in morphing  into some high-fashion model on Friday night. I always want to look my best!  A simple routine takes the work out of it because it becomes well… routine.

Skincare is everything-as you age your skin changes. I am sure that is not a surprise to anyone reading this. It is so important to take care of your skin early! I wish I had been more vigilant earlier. I am not saying you have to invest in facials or high priced skincare treatments. You can do most stuff at home.  But a quality sunscreen, a good cleanser, an exfoliator, and a serum are a must. Here’s an at-home mask recipe I recently tried and loved. If your pantry staples look like mine you won’t need to go and buy anything.

  • 1/2 glass of water
  • 2 tsp of apple cider vinegar
  • 2 tsp of baking soda
  • 1 lemon
  • 4 tsp of honey
  • 2 tsp of tumeric

*Paint it on with a face brush, leave on for 20 min and wash off. Voila!

Eat more plants– I am a vegetarian and have been for years. I can’t even remember the last time I had a steak, but I am sure it was at least two decades ago. I don’t try to convince people to become vegetarians because I do believe it’s a serious lifestyle choice and not everyone wants to choose that life, but I do believe everyone could benefit from eating more vegetables. I personally think that 75% of what you eat should be plant-based. That might be a little high to start but I think most people aren’t even getting close. Try for a month to have your veggies take center stage. Let them be the main meal and whatever else you eat be your side dish. I bet you will look and more importantly feel so much better.

Get enough sleep– I can not stress this enough. A lack of sleep will age you faster than anything else will. I know this is a real issue for some of my friends and as someone who falls asleep as soon as her head hits the pillow I am probably not an authority on sleep issues. But I did do a little research and I also believe this is another area where having a routine comes in handy. Start training your body for bedtime. I have a bedtime ritual that includes saying goodbye to social media, water drinking, skincare and a warm shower routine that starts about an hour before my head hits the pillow. Even on crazy harried nights, my routine remains. I might not do it with much enthusiasm, but it still gets done. If your routine is watching tv until you finally zonk out try putting some other practices in place that tell your body it’s time and help calm your mind for sleep.

Cut back on sugar– Now this was a hard one for me. I spent my pre-teen years in Germany and love Haribo candies (basically any gummy variety) and dark and white chocolates. But sugar really does age you and if you are like me and have a hard time stopping once you get going you might have to do what I did and go on a cleanse. I cut out sweets for 60 days. I had two times where I gave in during that period and I was afraid I would backslide, but I didn’t. I had already gotten past that standard 21 days to break a habit. Now, I will still occasionally eat sweets but I don’t buy gummy bears like a 12-year-old anymore or eat cake for breakfast, though I am still known for my Kate Spade Phone Case with this slogan on it. At this point in my life, I know what cupcakes taste like. I don’t have to sample every single one that comes along. I am more conscious about my choices. If I really want one i’ll have one, but I’m much more intentional about my sugar consumption.

So that’s my advice for looking fabulous over 40. And we all know that less alcohol, more water, and cultivating JOY also does wonders! I’d love to hear your tips for looking and feeling good as you age.

Until Next Post,


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Tonya Parker is a counselor, author and certified life coach who believes in helping women look and feel their best! Ambassador for O, The Oprah Magazine and author of Single Mom Chic

9 thoughts on “5 Tips to Look and Feel Fabulous Over 40

  1. Hello lovely! I am just a few years from 40 but I love your advice. I think it applies for women my age as well. I too get carded when I go to bars and it very flattering. But it still catches me off guard. I don’t think I look my age but I know I look of the legal age to drink, lol! Your 5 tips are really good advice. Thank you for the wonderful blog.

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  2. Great tips, Tonya! These are easy to follow, don’t require a lot of money and they just make good sense; what we put into our bodies really does affect our overall health and appearance. For me, regular exercise is a cornerstone of youthfulness and vitality. It’s not something I am always motivated to do, but I notice a big difference in the way I look and feel when I slack off.
    Thank you for continuing to share and inspire! ❤

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