The Real Chic Life

There’s a lot going on in the world right now, and it’s easy to disengage by slipping into the kind of social media bubble that’s all about the extravagant escape. I’m looking at you, Becca Bloom. And while I find Becca’s content perplexingly relaxing, I’ve seen quite a bit of backlash against over-the-top influencers (which is understandable). However, it’s also common in our social media-connected culture to measure ourselves against people we know in real life, too. 

Comparison is something we all fall into from time to time. You see someone’s highlight reel on Instagram, a friend’s big promotion, or a perfect vacation photo—and suddenly your own life feels a little dimmer. But here’s the truth: as cliché as it may sound, comparison is the thief of joy. It keeps you focused on what you don’t have instead of celebrating all that you do.

Here are some chic, grounded ways to deal with comparison and get back to your own beautiful lane.

1. Curate Your Social Media

Your feed should inspire, not drain you. Mute or unfollow accounts that make you feel “less than” and fill your space with creators who uplift, educate, or motivate you. You get to choose the energy you consume.

 2. Practice Gratitude

Every time you catch yourself comparing, pause and name three things you’re grateful for. This simple shift moves your mind from scarcity to abundance—one of the most powerful mindset makeovers you can give yourself.

3. Celebrate Your Wins

Big or small, every step counts. Write down your wins weekly, or keep a victories list in your Notes app. Seeing your progress reminds you that your journey is unfolding beautifully in its own time.

4. Reframe Success

Someone else’s success isn’t your failure—it’s proof that it’s possible. Instead of thinking, “Why not me?” try, “If she can, so can I.” Let it inspire rather than discourage you.

5. Invest in Yourself

Comparison thrives when we feel disconnected from our own growth. Take a class, learn a new skill, or nurture your wellbeing. When you’re evolving, you’re too focused on your own path to worry about someone else’s.

 6. Embrace Your Season

Everyone’s timeline looks different. Some bloom early, some later—but every season has purpose. Your moment will come, and when it does, you’ll be ready because you stayed true to you.

When you stop comparing, you make space for confidence, clarity, and calm. The most elegant thing you can do is embrace your journey fully—trusting that where you are is exactly where you’re meant to be.

x Tonya